Forgiveness

I would like to post a minute about forgiveness. I am pretty sure that all of us have done something in one way or the other that would require us to have to ask for forgiveness. I try not to live my life where I will have things that I regret, but I would be a liar if I said there are some things in my past that I wouldn't have done had I known then what I know now. I have done some things that required the gut wrenching, "I'm sorry, it was all my fault, can you ever forgive me?" speech. For those of you that know me in real life know that I am constantly apologizing because I truly do not mean to hurt any one's feelings, but sometimes my truth tends to hurt people.

Let's talk about my truth for a minute. My truth comes from my perspective. The way I was raised, the things that I have experienced in life, the people I have met, and I could go on with how I arrive to my truth, but I won't because I think the readers of my blog are smart enough to figure it out. I grew up in a real tiny town in central Louisiana. I was raised by my mother, but mostly by my grandmother. My biological father didn't bother to come and visit me or lay eyes on me until I was seven years old. My mother and I have talked about his absentee fatherism (I know that's not a word, but bear with me.) She apologized for him...which I thought was odd. I have forgiven my dad a long time ago for the things that he didn't do. Honestly, I found it more easy to forgive for the things that he did do (the list was much shorter). Point is I forgave and moved on.

Does it really matter if people don't understand why you are angry? Is it really that important that we have closure? Usually people that you hate feel two ways about you hating them... 1. They don't know that you are upset with them. 2. They know and they don't care that you are upset with them. So, truly forgiveness is not for the other person, but for you that is holding the anger or the grudge. So, if there is anyone that you have cause to be angry with, a conflict, or just some general bad blood take time today to forgive them. Take that hate out of your heart and head and make room for some new exciting positive things to come.

One Love

Suga C