In these trying times people are having to cut back and make sacrifices to make their ends meet. I am one of the people that have had to make some serious sacrifices for my family's needs. I refuse to sit around and let my children go without things that they need because I am able to do something about it. I, however, have these people around me that somehow think that life has all of a sudden changed and issued free money passes to me. The money that I have...I have earned. I didn't go out and sell my body, find a magical money tree, or a leprechaun's pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. I did, however, go to the classified ads and find a job. Getting a job is an archaic concept for some people, but it is a way of life in my home.
The answer is, "NO!" to those of you that are asking for money. I am not a member of the FDIC. My money is not insured by the government. My suggestion to you is to either get a payday loan or better yet just go and get a payday. Stop sitting around waiting on a friggin hand out from me because your hands will rot and fall off if you are waiting for a free pay off from me. I ain't got it, boo!
The answer is, "NO!" to those of you that are asking for free room and board. I am not moving anything else in my house that I have to feed to keep alive. My couch is for sitting not for sleeping. I have put out poison for all of the insects because I refuse to let them sit around my house for free as well. I have placed a sign on my house that reads, "NO CHILDREN, NO PETS, and UNEMPLOYED PERSONS ALLOWED." I thought that would make my stance clear, but obviously you moochers needed more clarification. I ain't got it, boo!
I just don't have the room in my heart or my wallet any longer for you people that are allergic to work. I am moving on with my life. Help yourself and maybe someone will come along to help you . I can not be a crutch to anyone that is not trying to help themselves. Helping people that are totally unwilling to do anything has gotten me into a world of trouble. My help and charitable gifts stop here today.
Thanks
Suga C
Monday, August 24, 2009
Monday, August 17, 2009
Lending a Helping Hand
I am no good Samaritan. As a matter of fact when I see people in a fix/trouble, I try not to make eye contact so that they won't ask me for help. Yeah, I know, I should do better, but at least I'm honest about it. Well, I was coming out of the grocery store on Friday, and I see this elderly lady barely walking to her vehicle with a basket full of groceries. She was shuffling her feet, barely lifting her feet to make the baby steps to get to her vehicle. I was moved to pity. So, against my better judgement I walk over to her and ask her, "Do you need some help?" She promptly says, "NO!" I turn to walk away when she, says under her breath "Ion need no help from no colored woman" I immediately turned around and my instincts were to go over and kick this old broads legs from under her. I just gave her a look, but I continued to my car, which was parked right next to her truck. I over hear her tell her hubby, "Did you see that colored gal, ask me if I needed some help?" I just shook my head and laughed.
First off, who says, "colored" anymore, unless they are referring to how they colored in a coloring book or something. I mean really that showed me that this woman was close to 100 years old with that type of dialect. She called me a "gal" I haven't heard "gal" since I watched Rosewood or Color Purple. I felt like I was living back in the 50's. I didn't address her ignorance, but it did give me a perspective about minding my own business. If, I hadn't tried to help the old worn down bitty with her groceries I would've never been subjected to such foolishness. So, the next time I see that old dusty bag of bones and her hubby struggling to do anything... I will just turn my head and keep it moving because this, "colored gal" has better things to do then to be insulted by an old dusty decrepit bag of bones.
First off, who says, "colored" anymore, unless they are referring to how they colored in a coloring book or something. I mean really that showed me that this woman was close to 100 years old with that type of dialect. She called me a "gal" I haven't heard "gal" since I watched Rosewood or Color Purple. I felt like I was living back in the 50's. I didn't address her ignorance, but it did give me a perspective about minding my own business. If, I hadn't tried to help the old worn down bitty with her groceries I would've never been subjected to such foolishness. So, the next time I see that old dusty bag of bones and her hubby struggling to do anything... I will just turn my head and keep it moving because this, "colored gal" has better things to do then to be insulted by an old dusty decrepit bag of bones.
Forgiveness
I would like to post a minute about forgiveness. I am pretty sure that all of us have done something in one way or the other that would require us to have to ask for forgiveness. I try not to live my life where I will have things that I regret, but I would be a liar if I said there are some things in my past that I wouldn't have done had I known then what I know now. I have done some things that required the gut wrenching, "I'm sorry, it was all my fault, can you ever forgive me?" speech. For those of you that know me in real life know that I am constantly apologizing because I truly do not mean to hurt any one's feelings, but sometimes my truth tends to hurt people.
Let's talk about my truth for a minute. My truth comes from my perspective. The way I was raised, the things that I have experienced in life, the people I have met, and I could go on with how I arrive to my truth, but I won't because I think the readers of my blog are smart enough to figure it out. I grew up in a real tiny town in central Louisiana. I was raised by my mother, but mostly by my grandmother. My biological father didn't bother to come and visit me or lay eyes on me until I was seven years old. My mother and I have talked about his absentee fatherism (I know that's not a word, but bear with me.) She apologized for him...which I thought was odd. I have forgiven my dad a long time ago for the things that he didn't do. Honestly, I found it more easy to forgive for the things that he did do (the list was much shorter). Point is I forgave and moved on.
Does it really matter if people don't understand why you are angry? Is it really that important that we have closure? Usually people that you hate feel two ways about you hating them... 1. They don't know that you are upset with them. 2. They know and they don't care that you are upset with them. So, truly forgiveness is not for the other person, but for you that is holding the anger or the grudge. So, if there is anyone that you have cause to be angry with, a conflict, or just some general bad blood take time today to forgive them. Take that hate out of your heart and head and make room for some new exciting positive things to come.
One Love
Suga C
Let's talk about my truth for a minute. My truth comes from my perspective. The way I was raised, the things that I have experienced in life, the people I have met, and I could go on with how I arrive to my truth, but I won't because I think the readers of my blog are smart enough to figure it out. I grew up in a real tiny town in central Louisiana. I was raised by my mother, but mostly by my grandmother. My biological father didn't bother to come and visit me or lay eyes on me until I was seven years old. My mother and I have talked about his absentee fatherism (I know that's not a word, but bear with me.) She apologized for him...which I thought was odd. I have forgiven my dad a long time ago for the things that he didn't do. Honestly, I found it more easy to forgive for the things that he did do (the list was much shorter). Point is I forgave and moved on.
Does it really matter if people don't understand why you are angry? Is it really that important that we have closure? Usually people that you hate feel two ways about you hating them... 1. They don't know that you are upset with them. 2. They know and they don't care that you are upset with them. So, truly forgiveness is not for the other person, but for you that is holding the anger or the grudge. So, if there is anyone that you have cause to be angry with, a conflict, or just some general bad blood take time today to forgive them. Take that hate out of your heart and head and make room for some new exciting positive things to come.
One Love
Suga C
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